Last night as I was in the kitchen, watching Max smiling and laughing to something that was cracking only him up, I remembered some words our neurologist told us when Max was about 1 year old.
He said, "you are lucky to have Max. He makes you so happy! You won't ever have to worry about him hanging with the wrong crowd, or getting into drugs, or into trouble at school. His whole life, he will make you happy.".
I thought then, yes, but we'll miss out on everything else parents of a typical child have. We won't have a "normal little boy" who gets in trouble.
As this summer has started, our daughter has rejoined the fold, here on her summer vacation to spend with us. She spends the rest of the school year with her mom in Oklahoma. When she arrives, our entire schedule, life, everything gets shifted and changed.
There are two very different children with very different needs to attend to. There is a need to entertain both of them differently. There's two different moods to negotiate. And the laundry, and dishes, and mess gets doubled!
And while all that craziness is always much anticipated, because we wish she was always with us, to see Max looking sweetly outside his window, dancing with the wind, or singing along to the birds in the tree, or just laughing for no real reason...I stop to remember our wise doctor's words. He's happy, he doesn't carry with him the worries of a typical child. He truly just makes us so so very happy.
What a special doctor to say something so profound as you were starting on your journey with Max.
He is a wonderful doctor...and a good friend. He has so much care for Max, and for us.
Before I got to the bit about adding in Abbey for the summers, I was thinking, "Well, you have a girl who will surely make up for all the drama Max misses out on!"
You certainly have a taste of two very different worlds to keep you on your toes!
Lauren, You know it! You really won't believe how different she is even from last year!
Very touching! Hope you have a fantastic summer with both the kiddos!
Very wise words - and so true. (sorry for the delay - juts catching up now)
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